銆€銆€In fact, there are certain behaviors that actually telegraph that you are not relationship material. Becoming aware of those behaviors, and getting rid of them, can be very powerful in changing the way that you are perceived.

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銆€銆€My 20 tough love reasons for why you don’t have a boyfriend:

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銆€銆€1. You’re needy. You met him last weekend, he texted a few times, and now you just won’t leave the guy alone. This is probably the#1 behavior that gets girls labeled psycho in the early days.

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銆€銆€2. You like players. You can’t resist the bad boys, the ones who have dumped on other women. You think that you will be different, that nabbing a player will validate your feminine powers. But the player always wins, because the player always walks.

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銆€銆€3. You’re a princess. You want a man who will will worship the very ground you walk on. Do you really want a guy who will eagerly go to a bunch of chick flicks withyou? Wouldn’t you rather accompany him to Transformers from time to time?

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銆€銆€4. You flirt too much. Flirting is an essential skill in any woman’s toolkit. It is meant to indicate to a guy thatyou are singling him out for special attention because you are attracted to him. If you flirt like crazy withevery Y chromosome you encounter, it loses its effectiveness, and makes you seem “not very choosy.”

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銆€銆€5. You’re not in the game. If you’re shy, reserved, or aloof, you are not approachable. If you find a guy attractive, meet him halfway by signaling your interest with eye contact and a smile. If you know him, pay him some attention.

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銆€銆€6. You’re too picky. You want a guy who is well-educated, financially successful, handsome, funny, witty, generous, blah blah blah. Get realistic. Keep an open mind when you’re sizing up men. Allow yourself to find the good.

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銆€銆€7. You’re a Girl Gone Wild. Stop getting drunk. No one, male or female, ever became more attractive when they got drunk . When you are drunk, you say and do foolish things.

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銆€銆€8. You’re ditzy. I don’t know why some women love to get all girly and giggly. Isuppose it makes them feel sexier, a la Marilyn Monroe. If you’re with a guy who wants his women stupid, you need a new guy.

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銆€銆€9. You’re a Mean Girl. Sometimes, guys want to get with mean girls because they’re powerful, but that relationship isn’t about love.

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銆€銆€10. You’re high maintenance. You always feel slighted. He’s always saying and doing the wrong thing.Your feelings are constantly hurt, and he is constantly apologizing. Fighting all the time can be rewarding in the short-term, but ultimately it’s a total boner-killer.

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銆€銆€11. You’re aggressive. You act like one of the guys. Male is biologically programmed to seek his complementary opposite – which includes a much larger dose of estrogen. You can be strong, independent, and very, very female.

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銆€銆€12. You’re self-absorbed. You talk about yourself all the time. You’re not emotionally engaged in a caring and generous way. If you’re not curious about him; if you are not hungry for details about who he is and what he’s into, then maybe he’s the wrong guy. Or maybe you’re the wrong girl.

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銆€銆€13. You’re a homebody. You are not going througheach day looking to interact with and smile at attractive and approachable people. And by the way, get off the cell phone. The adorable guy behind you in line at Starbucks can’t say hi if you’re on your phone, plus he’s hearing you sound like a complete idiot with your BFF.

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銆€銆€14. You’re too hard to get. Yes, everyone likes a challenge. No one likes desperatation. If he asks you out spontaneously for tonight, that’s a real invitation. If you are interested, accept.

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銆€銆€15. Your number is too high. You don’t have to tell anyone your personal data. Just be aware that when you’re making the rounds within a certain community or group of friends, word gets out fast.

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銆€銆€16. You’re flaky. A plan is a commitment. Don’t blow someone off when something better comes along.Don’t ditch him because your friend “really needs you.” Don’t be late. Don’t get drunk . Women constantly complain that men aren’t reliable, but I’ve seen plenty of women flake out on guys.

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銆€銆€17. You’re materialistic. You know what? The best dates are cheap dates. Cooking together. Hanging out. Taking a long walk.

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銆€銆€18. You’re scared. You’ve been burned before. You are understandably wary. You’ve got to find a way forward. There is no love for any of us without considerable risk, so do what you need to do to work through it.

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銆€銆€19. You’re rigid. Being rigid is largely about asserting control. That’s never a winning relationship tactic.

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銆€銆€20. You’re a pushover. You put up with all kinds of crap. If you do not respect yourself, he certainly isn’t going to respect you, and your value in his eyes will tank.

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