With different cultural backgrounds and attitudes to marriage, the ratio of success of mixed marriage is not very high. In such a multicultural world, can mixed marriages survive crossing over “the cultural national boundary line”? The answer is “yes”!

“You need loyalty to dispel seemingly inevitable misunderstandings between couples with different cultural backgrounds. Respect each other’s tradition and break through cultural difference.” Dan•Ben Canaan, an English editor with Israeli nationality in HLJTV, told the reporter. Canaan has lived in Harbin for over 10 years and has a happy family.

When he and his wife met for the first time, Ben Canaan fell quickly in love and immersed into the fantasy, sentiment and longing romance. After the short passion, they encountered cultural barriers like other transnational couples; Different beliefs, traditions and customs were against their grains. They nearly broke up many times.

However, they didn’t give up their choice easily like other transnational couples. They tried their best to communicate and learnt a little about each other’s country’s history and culture. At the same time, they used loyal concern and love to melt misunderstanding.

“Couples should pay more attention to loyalty and care to keep the relationship of marriage. For the transnational amour, it’s essential.” Ben Canaan’s wife said, “He will not leave or get angry when we have contradictions. He just looks at me quietly. When I’m mollified, he will explain why he will ‘offend’ me in a tender tone. Only then I know I blamed him wrongly. That makes me love him more. I learn how to let him understand me.”

After stepping into the palace of marriage, Ben Canaan studied Chinese hard. He arranged common communication words, a series of ways to communicate, diet arrangement and cultural activities only belonging to them. “He doesn’t understand my ‘Chinese’ words and behaviors. He doesn’t know why Chinese people eat dumplings during Spring Festival. But he never denies, refuses or intervenes. This is a kind of understanding and respect.” The wife said.

You need to pay attention to the one you love continuously, respect the differences of reality and culture between you and pay for more patience and tolerance. It’s like making tang yuan “Wrap the peels with the heart and the sweet stuffing will not leak” Ben Canaan told the reporter.